I think part of the problem is not all of us love and worship Pam. I just never have and I think it’s fine to say that. She was incredibly self absorbed and when things weren’t going her way, she threw the towel in.
JR and Sue Ellen’s relationship may not have always been healthy but their chemistry was off the chart which is why their roles quickly overtook Pam and Bobby as the leading couple.
I think you posted that in the wrong thread. However, all Sue Ellen ever did was throw in the towel. It's just that her version of checking out, was finding the bottom of a bottle of booze so she wasn't present in her life.
Also, I think Bobby and Pam remained a very popular couple on DALLAS and they definitely held their own as stars on the show. I don't recall (to use just a popular European talk show) Linda's episodes of Wogan being the highest rated...hehe.
Was Pam wrong to leave Southfork when Bobby did something corrupt or JR treated her like crap? Was she wrong to want a place of their own? In fact, I think it showed her sanity to want away from Southfork.
The only example you have of Pam leaving with possibly a bad reason, was her character's exit from the show. Which was done after Victoria left and as a result of that. It was also because of Patrick coming back via the dream fiasco so you can't hate her character for that.