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<blockquote data-quote="James from London" data-source="post: 246117" data-attributes="member: 22">My advice would be to try to resist the temptation to give anyone advice, especially unsolicited advice. If someone tells you their troubles, let them do the talking. Just try to listen - really listen -&nbsp; to what they&#039;re saying, rather than simply waiting for them to shut up so you can deliver the solution you&#039;ve just formulated in your head while you were pretending to listen. Don&#039;t tell someone how to feel or how not to feel. If you have experience of a situation that you think is relevant and might be helpful, maybe share that. Do say, &quot;What I did was ...&quot; Don&#039;t say, &quot;What you should do is ...&quot;People like giving advice cos it makes them feel better (case in point: I feel tip-top now!), but by and large, nobody really takes advice. They mostly just want the space to talk and be heard.I was arrested for being drunk and incapable after I passed out at a bus stop in Halesowen when I was eighteen, but I don&#039;t think it&#039;s on my record.Oh, I see. [MEDIA=youtube]5c3AEOPt2Gc[/MEDIA]</blockquote>

[QUOTE="James from London, post: 246117, member: 22"] My advice would be to try to resist the temptation to give anyone advice, especially unsolicited advice. If someone tells you their troubles, let [I]them[/I] do the talking. Just try to listen - [I]really[/I] listen - to what they're saying, rather than simply waiting for them to shut up so you can deliver the solution you've just formulated in your head while you were [I]pretending[/I] to listen. Don't tell someone how to feel or how not to feel. If you have experience of a situation that you think is relevant and might be helpful, maybe share that. [I]Do[/I] say, "What I did was ..." [I]Don't[/I] say, "What you should do is ..." People like giving advice cos it makes [I]them[/I] feel better (case in point: I feel tip-top now!), but by and large, nobody really takes advice. They mostly just want the space to talk and be heard. I was arrested for being drunk and incapable after I passed out at a bus stop in Halesowen when I was eighteen, but I don't think it's on my record. Oh, I [I]see[/I]. [MEDIA=youtube]5c3AEOPt2Gc[/MEDIA] [/QUOTE]

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