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<blockquote data-quote="Snarky Oracle!" data-source="post: 431672" data-attributes="member: 57984">This is at least in the general area of the thread topic, but....&nbsp;I had a &quot;friend&quot; for years who once admitted (just a couple of years before the friendship ended) that she had a policy of deliberately treating the friends who were nice to her worse (I guess she assumes their niceness to her to be a sign of weakness and/or low-self-esteem) in order to make those friends scramble to be even nicer to her still...She even had a little term for it, calling it: &quot;keeping the blessings flowing in (her) direction.&quot; So, she had turned her sh!tty, gutter selfishness into a spiritual concept.Her mother used to warn her daughter that if she didn&#039;t start treating me better, she was going to lose my friendship (whom her mother identified as &quot;the nicest friend you&#039;ve got.&quot;) Which is notable, because I&#039;m pretty low-maintenance as a friend.Once it finally happened, and she&#039;d driven me off after years of our acquaintanceship, she went into meltdown (for whatever reason) and began lying elaborately about me --- forever. The irony that doing so just validated my kicking her to the curb probably not entirely lost on her, but, as long as it works....Naturally, her stories are mostly taken on face value, encouraging mutual friends to drop me before I do something to them, too... She has all the integrity of Amy Fisher with a piano. I&#039;m assuming she hasn&#039;t shot anybody.About 10 years after I took off, her husband left her, too. And she&#039;s been very, very careful to say only nice things about him -- even online -- which at least one of her pals asserted (to me) that would not have happened had I not taken off first. But she&#039;s clever enough to know that if she smeared and berated her husband in the same way she has me, that it might hurt her credibility... And she&#039;d rather maintain her smear of me than of him.And she knows she can&#039;t have both smears. She remains fixated for eons. Unwilling to deal with what she knows was her own behavior... Worse, my dropping her just made me seem &quot;stronger&quot; to her than her other friends she&#039;d disrespected, and therefore causing me, I guess, to appear more worthy and desirable in some way, driving her even more nuts.She&#039;ll do it &#039;til she dies.Exhausting? Not if you don&#039;t choose to be around it anymore --- at least until another little trinket of malicious gossip floats back.But you find yourself wondering why you put up with it for so long.<img src="https://www.globalacademicinstitute.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/can-we-just-be-friends-the-reality-of-male-female-friendship.jpg" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="width: 583px" />The &quot;he/she wants me&quot; trope Is adjacent to, &quot;they&#039;re jealous of me.&quot; (Like Joan Collins enjoys).</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Snarky Oracle!, post: 431672, member: 57984"] This is at least in the general area of the thread topic, but.... I had a "friend" for years who once admitted (just a couple of years before the friendship ended) that she had a policy of deliberately treating the friends who were nice to her [I][B]worse [/B][/I](I guess she assumes their niceness to her to be a sign of weakness and/or low-self-esteem) in order to make those friends scramble to be even nicer to her [I][B]still[/B][/I]... She even had a little term for it, calling it: "keeping the blessings flowing in (her) direction." So, she had turned her sh!tty, gutter selfishness into a spiritual concept. Her mother used to warn her daughter that if she didn't start treating me better, she was going to lose my friendship (whom her mother identified as "the nicest friend you've got.") Which is notable, because I'm pretty low-maintenance as a friend. Once it finally happened, and she'd driven me off after years of our acquaintanceship, she went into meltdown (for whatever reason) and began lying elaborately about me --- forever. The irony that doing so just validated my kicking her to the curb probably not entirely lost on her, but, as long as it works.... Naturally, her stories are mostly taken on face value, encouraging mutual friends to drop [I][B]me [/B][/I]before I do something to [I][B]them[/B][/I], too... She has all the integrity of Amy Fisher with a piano. I'm assuming she hasn't shot anybody. About 10 years after I took off, her husband left her, too. And she's been very, very careful to say only nice things about him -- even online -- which at least one of her pals asserted (to me) that would [B][I]not [/I][/B]have happened had I not taken off first. But she's clever enough to know that if she smeared and berated her husband in the same way she has me, that it might hurt her credibility... And she'd rather maintain her smear of me than of him. And she knows she can't have both smears. She remains fixated for eons. Unwilling to deal with what [I][B]she knows[/B][/I] was her own behavior... Worse, my dropping her just made me seem "stronger" to her than her [I]other [/I]friends she'd disrespected, and therefore causing me, I guess, to appear more worthy and desirable in some way, driving her even more nuts. She'll do it 'til she dies. Exhausting? Not if you don't choose to be around it anymore --- at least until another little trinket of malicious gossip floats back. But you find yourself wondering why you put up with it for so long. [IMG width="583px"]https://www.globalacademicinstitute.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/can-we-just-be-friends-the-reality-of-male-female-friendship.jpg[/IMG] The "he/she wants me" trope Is adjacent to, "they're jealous of me." (Like Joan Collins enjoys). [/QUOTE]

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