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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Karin" data-source="post: 408187" data-attributes="member: 57167">I just finished rewatching the show earlier this year and if it's one thing I noticed when watching it was how much it is a product of it's time.Another thing that I noticed was how I no longer shipped some of the couples I used to ship such as JR/SE and Bobby/Pam. I could see how JR/SE were not good for each other.  They had a very dysfunctional relationship that was more passionate than it was loving. It was actually abusive. Not so much physically but definitely mentally. JR can be very cruel to Sue Ellen and treats her in a degrading way.  All she wanted was for him to love her and to be faithful to her. But he can't do that as he is too ruthless and ambitious. He always puts his work before her and acts in a childish way.  It is because JR always felt his parents loved his brothers more than him. So he has to try harder to earn their respect and love. He wants his father's love and approval more than his wife's. He takes Sue Ellen for granted and thinks she is too needy. Sue Ellen was also raised by a woman who taught her that all she should want from life was a rich husband and a child. She has no identity or value outside of being Mrs. JR Ewing.  So when her life and marriage turns into a disaster she seeks comfort in the bottle as she tries to escape the reality of how bad things are rather than face her problems. JR can't handle a drunk wife. So he turns even nastier since she is no longer the woman he married. Eventually Sue Ellen shapes up and takes repsonsibilty for her own life and the mistakes she made. She grows a lot in the dream season when she gets sober. I actually liked the way Patricia and Sue Ellen reconciled in the dream season and Patricia could see she hadn't been a good mother. Too bad that was just a dream.Then as for Bobby and Pam, when they divorced I actually thought Bobby was happier with Jenna than he was with Pam. Their relationship seemed more fun and carefree than what he had with Pam. They also came from similar backgrounds and understood each other better, which made them more suited. Bobby and Pam always had communication problems and were not very well suited. They had this whole star-crossed lover thing that could never really work since it wasn't supposed to. Their fundamental problems was always making themselves reminded. Pam was also a very broken person who had lots of baggage from her childhood. Bobby, who was more spoilt but secure in the knowledge that his parents loved him, constantly had to reassure her that he loved her. Yet Pam never felt like it was enough since she had a void inside of her that could never be fulfilled. I think that void came from being abandoned by her mother as a baby and raised by her aunt and a drunk father. Who wasn't even her father, which caused an identity crisis for Pam when she found out. Pam wanted to create a better life for her child and yet in the end she did to him what her mother did to her. It seemed like Pam was always running away from the people who loved her.</blockquote>

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