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<blockquote data-quote="Snarky Oracle!" data-source="post: 395989" data-attributes="member: 57984">If you&#039;re being honest about your approach to relationships, there&#039;s not really a calming answer to it. All you can control in your reaction to it -- you don&#039;t want to join the dark side and behave the same way, nor should you accept their habitual behavior towards you. And suicide is always a bad option -- so don&#039;t do it.If they&#039;ve dumped you -- and they&#039;ve dumped you unfairly -- accept it as a gift (albeit a painful one) because it&#039;s revealed more about them and their issues than it does about yours... And if they hadn&#039;t dumped you (if indeed it was unfair and unjust) their issues would have just come up at a later time and possibly in an even worse way.It&#039;s your Zen response to it which is the only solution. And that requires detached forgiveness and the ability to move on... Obviously, that&#039;s not easy, but just focus on understanding their weakness (if that&#039;s what it was -- and it usually is) and accept their inability to be otherwise.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Snarky Oracle!, post: 395989, member: 57984"] If you're being honest about your approach to relationships, there's not really a calming answer to it. All you can control in your reaction to it -- you don't want to join the dark side and behave the same way, nor should you accept their habitual behavior towards you. And suicide is always a bad option -- so don't do it. If they've dumped you -- and they've dumped you unfairly -- accept it as a gift (albeit a painful one) because it's revealed more about them and their issues than it does about yours... And if they hadn't dumped you (if indeed it was unfair and unjust) their issues would have just come up at a later time and possibly in an even worse way. It's your Zen response to it which is the only solution. And that requires detached forgiveness and the ability to move on... Obviously, that's not easy, but just focus on understanding their weakness (if that's what it was -- and it usually is) and accept their inability to be otherwise. [/QUOTE]

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