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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Willie Oleson" data-source="post: 120849" data-attributes="member: 8">If only it was so easy to make someone feel better just by being nice to them.I'm not stating this as a fact, it's only a "bedroom" theory, but I think misery has the power to feed itself, and when a person starts to revel in his/her own misery than the last thing that person needs is someone trying to cheer him/her up.To take this a step further, I could imagine how that miserable person would like to get confirmation how miserable he/she is.I'm not posting this to enhance my comment, but I did it myself once.I was angry but I didn't know why, so I broke some clay-thing we made in school hoping to trigger an angry reaction from my mother.But instead she said something like "oh no, that lovely clay-thing, you were so proud of it". And that kindness infuriated me, because I wanted to be punished and then feel sorry for myself.Oops, too much psychological information, but anyway - what Sue Ellen did makes sense to me.</blockquote>