That's up to you, if you don't think your selfish then you have nothing to worry about. Personally I don't care when anyone chooses to become a parent, but I can't help but feel a little sad for a young child growing up with a parent that may not be around in the later years of life.
I dunno. My father was less than weeks off his 48th birthday when I arrived and he stuck around for many decades afterwards. There may have been more children after me but maybe I wasn't told. Or I forgot them, like I generally do with the ones before me. His father died young. The smoking in the RAF in wartime and afterwards (until he quit when I was 12) caused complications for my father decades later. I never once thought about him being older until after he died in April 2009. My first cousin once removed descending had her first child at 47 and three years later (seven more children later), she still kickboxes. The fastest walker on my Health walks is an 87 year old grandfather, constantly chatting up ladies. I'm next fastest and I'm the baby of the group. Some of my best chums are in their eighties and nineties. As for not being around in the later years of life, I think it is more important to create a loving and stable environment and provide security for a child. My father was setting up trusts, fully secret trusts, semi-secret trusts, insurance policies, with-profits thingies and investments for me when I was little. And then he left me more in his will than the other children, one of whom he tricked, so he can shaft them and dispose of them forever in future via my mother's will and semi-secret trusts. Thinking ahead for your children is important.
That's all very nice and well, but the mother is going to be around 70 years old when the kid finishes his education.
I haven't finished my education yet and my mother is older than that. My first cousin was a three-times-over grandmother by the time she was the age that my mother was when I was born. Number four is expected to arrive this month. My matrilineal grandmother produced children over nearly 40 years and she lived well into her nineties. My father was running about well into his eighties. Another first cousin had her eighth child when she was in her 50s.
Now I think about it, I prefer having older parents because they were/are more experienced and more settled in who they were. Particularly my father. And we shared many of the same interests, so we clicked that way.
Of course we don't, which makes it more scary the older we get.
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Not if you know in advance the contents of their wills and trusts. I always ensure that not only am I the executor and trustee, I am also the main beneficiary. The main problem is when I forget to turn up for meetings with myself.
