Bobby and Pam rushed into remarriage

[Chris2]

Now, Swan Song is one of my favorite episodes and you gotta love those reconciliation scenes between Pam and Bobby. But the writers were rushing to get those two back together before Patrick Duffy’s exit, and it showed. First, there was no thought given to Jenna. “She’ll just have to understand,” stated Bobby. Yeah, right. It would have been better to ease Jenna into it; Bobby should have broken up with her first (etiquette dictates that you don’t propose to someone when you’re already engaged to another), and then go public with his relationship with Pam a few months later.

But even more importantly, Bobby and Pam never really hashed out the issues that caused their first marriage to fail: Bobby’s strong devotion to the Ewing Oil legacy and Pam’s inability to understand it; Pam’s running away every time there was trouble; Pam’s emotional affair with the Pornstache; the untenable living situation at Southfork. Katherine’s fake letter helped end things, but but it wouldn’t have been the end had the foundation of the Barnes Ewing marriage been stronger.

Instead, Pam and Bobby glossed over all their issues in their rush to get back together and hop into bed. Those two needed to have some serious discussions and maybe even counseling before giving their marriage another go.

 

[KayLloyd]

Bobby and Pam actually did work through most of their "issues" along the way to their reunion, if anything, they wasted far too much time apart. Bobby told Pam, when he called a truce with J.R., that they could start over whenever she wanted, and if he could have her and Christopher back, Ewing Oil wouldn't mean a thing to him. As for Jenna, she was only deluding herself that Bobby would ever pick her over Pam, and got the kharma payback that she deserved for running off to Europe to marry and have baby with someone else, and letting Bobby believe that he was Charlie's father until Pam called her bluff. Pam's insecurity about not being able to give Bobby a natural child did need professional help, but that would have made for boring t.v..

 

[Miss Texas 1967]

Jenna, she was only deluding herself that Bobby would ever pick her over Pam, and got the kharma payback that she deserved for running off to Europe to marry and have baby with someone else

I'm not sure that's how it really went down though. Jenna would have dropped everything had Bobby wanted her and Lucas and not just Lucas.

As for Bobby and Pam, they rushed into marriage the first time and communication was never really their thing. They talked and pouted and then made amends with promises to do things differently but they never did really get to the root of their issues. Even the Pam can't have a baby thing and what that meant for them was never resolved as much as it was brushed over by Bobby bringing Christopher home unintentionally to Pam. Their marriage broke for real reasons and interference from their families, then they reunited, but you're absolutely right @Chris2 they did need more counselling or a real change in circumstances to move forward and expect it to be different the next time.