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Then, as she starts to leave, one of the girls tells him to "just let it go..." as if he's doing anything. He's not even badgering her.
Yes, there was a moment after this where the male presenter eloquently broke down how the unhelpful behaviour had been enabled by a female panelist:
What's funny is... she started crying and then you started reassuring her. Even though you disagree with her, you weren't prepared to step up... Because once the tears come out you're gonna placate her... It's white knighting.
He nailed it completely, but I also observed that the moment he finished saying it, another woman jumped in:
Guys fall for that a lot in arguments, like, girls crying. But they shouldn't fall for it.
It's not untrue, but the timing undermined his point about other women enabling this behaviour as much as men. I'd like for his words to have sat a little longer and received an acknowledgement that, yes, almost everyone - man or woman - is conditioned to instinctively indulge this kind of manipulation.
This video isn't directly-related, but kind of interesting
It certainly is, even if it is also very disheartening (particularly the latter part about the skewed and heavily biased data, which ties in with what's been discussed earlier in the thread).
Some of the stats given here are eye opening as well (though I wouldn't be surprised if some of those numbers are even higher).