Gary was no loser at all, unless it's by default. He didn't play the game to be a loser. He was a free thinker and didn't play their games, and couldn't be bullied into doing otherwise. That scared J.R., because it could potentially be turned against him, so he aims to keep Gary down. J.R. was the main reason for Gary and Val's stay at Southfork ending, again because he feared Gary, who had produced the first Ewing heir. Gary's first instinct was to be kind, J.R. the exact opposite "do unto others before they do unto you". Bobby played the games, Gary wasn't interested in them. Miss Ellie once said "Bobby was given everything that J.R. had to fight for and Gary didn't care about".